What is true help for our loved ones?

Story time! The man and the butterfly

Why helping is not always the best option? This story will make you think twice before you offer your help…

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A little boy found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small hole appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to get out of the cocoon through that little hole. Until it suddenly stopped making any progress and looked like it was stuck. So, the man decided to help the butterfly.

He took a pair of scissors and removed the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then came out easily, although it had a weak body and small shrivelled wings.

The little boy didn’t think anything of it and sat there waiting for the wings to get bigger to support the butterfly. But that didn’t happen. The butterfly spent the rest of its life unable to fly, crawling around with tiny wings.

Despite the kind heart of the little boy, he didn’t understand that the cocoon and the struggle needed by the butterfly to get itself out were Nature’s way of preparing the butterfly for flying once it was out of the cocoon.

Our struggles in life develop our strengths. Without struggles we never grow and never get stronger, so it’s important for us to tackle challenges on our own, and not be relying on help from others. We must also be careful not to make others dependent on us.

And you, how did you develop your own wings? Do you let your loved ones develop their own wings as well or do you help them too much?

7 Replies to “What is true help for our loved ones?”

  1. For me if it’s too much relying on me I say no. If they are taking advantage on me ,even I feel ,bad I say no to them.

  2. My family always relying on me, but now i must start say no.
    And not make other dependent on me.
    Even slowly i want make sure can develop my wing,,
    My loves ones, / my family also i let develop their own wing as well, and not to much help them .

  3. I’m not independent person. I don’t depend on anyone but myself. I find ways to solve my problems on my own.
    My family, I taught them to grow their own wings by giving them only what they need. So if they want something, they need to work for it. Now they are on their own, flying high, spreading their own wings.

  4. I am very independent person i grew by my own facing the struggles of life without even asking help from my parents. My sacrifices my trials makes me more stronger to pursue my dream. I also give example to my family and let them learn how to be independent not to be a dependent from others. Trials hindrances what obstacle along the way as.long as you keep in tract of your dream you will overcome with FOCUS.

  5. What I took lesson from this story is about we was think about what anything they orders we gave is made them happy but made them not to be worse and not independent

  6. Before,I always put the needs of my family before me.and I believe that my family I left in Philippines deserved to be helped because I was the lucky one who was able to gain employment abroad.Because of my mission I want them to get out of poverty.,I never failed send remittances to my family back home.When I attended one of a training course,I felt something wrong with me financially.So,I decided this had to stop.Now through uplift online course I was able to craft my personal balance sheet and to account for money that came in and money that went out.Now, when they ask me money My final words to my family It is not my Fault that they are poor.I can’t imagine the guilt you would feel when you see someone drowning and you cannot save the person because you don’t know how to swim.But saving that person by risking your life is not the only way you can help.The same true in Finance.You need not offer your own financial resources when you are not financially stable enough to solve
    the financial problems of another person.

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