My kids have grown up without experiencing a complete family living together because either myself or their father would go to another place for work. I have three kids: one girl (10 years old) and two boys (7 and 5 years old). They are bubbly, sweet, and thoughtful kids, but sometimes they can be naughty and hardheaded – that’s part of growing up. As a parent, it always hurts me when my eldest asks me, “When will you come back here, Ma, and stay with us longer?” Or when my second child tells us, “Ma, Pa, when will you be here soon? Can we go to a new place or another home to live in?” Because right now, they are under my mother’s guardianship.
The main reason I left my children and our home was due to a shortage of income. Our last option to provide for our kids’ needs was for one of us to go abroad and earn money. In the Philippines, we didn’t have many opportunities since we did not have higher education. I got the opportunity to go abroad immediately, and later my partner also found work in Mindanao. We were both apart from our kids.
It’s heartbreaking to be away from my children. When I went home for vacation for the first time, my youngest didn’t recognize me as his mother. I left him with my mother when he was only 9 months old, and growing up without me has had an impact on him, as well as his siblings. Despite the distance, we are still emotionally attached. Every day, I make time to talk with them, asking about their school, their day, or simply joking around during our chitchats. They keep asking me when I can be with them, and that’s a hard question for me because I know I’m not yet financially ready to go home for good.
I feel incomplete if I can’t talk to one of them, and our daily routine includes exchanging “good morning” and “goodnight” messages along with selfie pictures.
My only wish is for them to fulfil their dreams individually. I will be here to support them, no matter what. I want them to succeed in any way they desire, as long as it doesn’t harm them and brings them true happiness. I hope one day they will enter a successful era in their lives.
To other moms in similar situations, I would like to say: Keep fighting, super moms! We are here for the future of our kids, but let’s not forget what is most important – our connection to our children. Let’s strive for success not only in our careers and financial stability but also in maintaining a strong bond with our kids. Love, in return, will be the best ROI (return on investment) ever.
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